Some people delude themselves into thinking that their act of giving is due to their unselfish nature when in fact it is the very opposite that is true.
When I give, I do try very hard to give unselfishly, give only what I can afford, and expect nothing in return. When I cannot afford to give it, then I don’t. I suppose I am selfish that way.
I have known many people though who make a big show of giving. Do you know of someone who is always giving you something whether you need it or not and then makes it a point to mention what she has given you in front of someone else? I know of someone who I used to accept clothing from. I don’t mind wearing someone’s hand me down if it’s in good condition and style that I prefer. I am not picky that way; and I am most appreciative when I get free clothes. I don’t appreciate being asked, in front of other people, if that pretty shirt I’m wearing is the one she gave me? What, now do you expect me to thank you in public so they can all see what a generous person you are? You have so much that you can afford to give your possessions away? Would it boost your ego? Do you really think those people are impressed by this show? I don’t know.
Others give to charities for various reasons, a lot of them not for charities’ sake. Many give because they get a tax break, others give to get the free giveaways, and many more give just to see their name in lights, in publications in bricks, or whatever. If I ever give to any charity, I hope I give because I want to and not because of the free stickers.
Even the ones who do what one would think is the ultimate act of giving, adopting a child into their homes, if they are honest with themselves are doing it for selfish reasons. Don’t we want to have someone to love us as unconditionally as a child? Don’t we want someone to love and hold and hug and shower with affection?
Most of the time that is why people do the things they do, because they get something from it. It is very difficult to do something and not get nothing in return. You always get something in return. I suppose it’s up to you too, how you’d want to handle those gifts in return.
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