There are always people who seem to have a hard time saying something nice or seeing the positive in things. They thrive on turmoil and seem to relish hurting others. I feel sorry for them. They are on a downward spiral.
I believe that when you have hate, anger and negativity inside you; it drains you of energy. The energy that makes you feel good and vital. The energy that makes you glad to be alive. The energy that allows you to see the world in living color.
When you let all these negative emotions fester inside of you, your vision for anything beautiful and inspiring becomes cloudy.
Make it a goal to give a compliment to a total stranger at least once a day, and mean it. If you’re going to be sarcastic about it, don’t do it. Think ulcers eating up your insides. Look for something nice about a person and genuinely compliment them on it. It will make your steps springier and your smile brighter, I promise.
I said total stranger on the paragraph above because I do this already with my family. No matter how crappy I am feeling, I try to always point something out that they did that day no matter how trivial. It tells them I SEE them, what they are doing, what gives them pleasure, what gives them pain. They know I appreciate it when do little things like putting their dish in the sink rather than leaving it on the table for me to pick up.
When my daughter comes home with C’s on her report card, I compliment her for bringing it up from D’s. 🙂 and I let her know that I know she tried and could do better next time. I try not to bring up that she should have studied harder and been more consistent with her homework. We had covered that already, she knows it, and I don’t need to keep bringing it up.
I try to teach them this principle (If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything) by doing it. We don’t always succeed, it’s human nature that we let go some negativity sometimes, but I think it’s a good guideline to follow. It saves others grief and hurt, and it saves your well being, physically and mentally.