Nette Life

I don’t get angry often. I’m usually good at letting things slide off my back and not letting it bother me. But when I do get angry, once I get on that roll, I have a hard time putting the brakes on. It takes me a long time to cool off, and it doesn’t help that the more I think about it, the angrier I get.

That’s what happened tonight. A friend/cousin left a very irritating and throughtless comment on one of my blogs. If she had emailed me privately, I could have brushed it off as is my usual way. By her posting her comment/suggestion on a public forum, I can’t help but feel that she did it to show off and put me on the spot. I’m still simmering and I’m having a hard time focusing on writing anything for my blogs so I decided to just catch up on reading emails.

You know how old people always say that the Lord always sends you help when you need it? Sometimes all you need to do is recognize it and accept it. That thought was what was on my mind when I read this from The Simple Dollar:

Forgive the people in your life for their mistakes.
One final aggravation and mood reducer, for me, is people. There are people in my life that I have a very hard time being around, usually because I’ve witnessed them doing something foolish or wrong that’s bothered me quite a bit. If I hang onto this, every time I’m around them my stomach is full of bile.
The best solution is to try to forgive that person by realizing that everyone is human and has failings. Maybe you don’t feel comfortable around someone because they’re a loudmouth, or maybe you witnessed a person taking a truckload of stuff from the office supply closet. These people made a mistake, and quite often that mistake is a result of their human failings.
Do some honest introspection and realize that you have failings, too. Others may see these failings in you and feel uncomfortable around you. It’s no different than how you feel about this person that’s bothering you.
Once you’ve done that, it’s often easy to forgive most people. You’ll see that the person you despise is just a person, warts and all, just like you are, and it becomes much easier to not be filled with negativity when they’re around.

So right now I’m doing a lot of exhaling and letting all the negativity that I’ve allowed in me, out. I’m trying to think kind thoughts instead of the vile responses I’ve been concocting in my head.

Peace. Om.